Tired of Talking about Bullying? Have a Movie Night Instead

pretty in pinkWhen was the last time you saw Pretty in Pink? I loved it when I was 13. I thought Molly Ringwald’s character, Andi, was so cool and creative how she made her own hip clothes. Think about what we learned from Andi:

  • You can be anything you want to be.
  • Take what life gives you and use it to create new things that work for you.
  • Stand up for yourself and your friends.
  • Just because something has always been one way, doesn’t mean it has to be that way forever.

Plus, it has that classic plot where 2 kids from different sides of the tracks break through all the social conventions to be together.  To fall in love.  How much better does it get than that?  Pretty in Pink and other films we loved as kids focused a lot of the bully, the bullied, and the bystander.  There were a lot of examples of girls and boys standing up to the powerful forces that were trying to cut them down and learning how to say and do just the right thing to bring that bully to his or her knees.  And, of course!  Because these are the themes that our girls (and boys) really care about.  They are practicing each and every day to use their power and it feels good to watch someone on screen act strong and powerful in the face of bullying.

What movies did you love as a kid/youth that you want to share with your own kids? All this talk about bullying has been heavy.  Let’s life our spirits a bit and, tonight, have a movie night!  Grab the popcorn, snuggle up, and take a Time Machine back to 1985.  The most important thing is to have fun but you can also have some casual conversation with your girls:

  • Did you like the movie?  What did you like about it?
  • What I liked about this movie when I was a kid was…
  • I can’t believe how mean those kids were to each other.  Do you ever notice kids being that mean at your school?  Tell me about that?
  • What would you do if you were in her/his shoes?
  • If you could make a movie about the kids at your school, what would it be about?

Just some other fun movie ideas…these are the ones I liked anyway…

The Breakfast Club- Another Molly Ringwald/John Hughes classic.  Still a great exploration of how kids express their power in various social cliques.

The Breakfast Club- Another Molly Ringwald/John Hughes classic. Still a great exploration of how kids express their power in various social cliques.

Back to the Future - Talk about empowering!  The kid had to go back in time to stop a bully so that we could save his own life.  I mean...c'mon!  What if it had been a girl as Marty McFly?!?

Back to the Future – Talk about empowering! The kid had to go back in time to stop a bully so that we could save his own life. I mean…c’mon! What if it had been a girl as Marty McFly?!?

A Christmas Story - Everyone's holiday favorite.  He stands up to the bully by punching the heck outta him.  Hmmm?  Perhaps your daughter would have an alternative plan.  Ask her!

A Christmas Story – Everyone’s holiday favorite. He stands up to the bully by punching the heck outta him. Hmmm? Perhaps your daughter would have an alternative plan. Ask her!

 

This post is #20 of 25 Tips to Teach Your Daughter to Respect Herself, Command Respect, and Respect Others.  Wanna make sure you get all 25 Tips for Bullying Awareness Month?  CLICK HERE and we’ll send ‘em right to your email!

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